I was pulled into this career for an all too familiar reason. My horse Westley and I were struggling with our partnership. He was my best friend, but I felt like we just couldn’t get on the same page, no matter how much I wanted to. He was cranky to groom, tough to ride, and got eliminated at every competition we went to. I felt hopeless. I looked high and low for an answer to what was bothering him, with numerous vets and professionals weighing in.

For years I, like many riders, have struggled with my sitting trot. I took lunge lessons, I watched youtube videos, I rode with respected trainers, and still, I found it impossible to swing my hips naturally to follow my horse’s movement. I found it so frustrating that I seriously considered giving up my dream of riding at the upper levels, doubting my talent. Luckily for me, it was around that time that I entered massage school, and started receiving regular massages. My instructor found my back and hips incredibly tight and showed me a diagram on a poster we had in class. It showed a pair of muscles on either side of the spine that begin at the end of the mid back, fan out to the inner pelvis, and insert into the tops of each femur. “This is your iliopsoas,” she told me, “it’s your major hip flexor. Because you’ve been riding your whole life, and your hips are constantly flexing and extending to follow the horse, yours are very tight. I’m going to work on them for you.” After massaging me, she showed me a few stretches to do before I rode. The next day, and over the next months, I became more and more able to open my hips and master the elusive sitting trot. I thought to myself, all this time I have been so frustrated and blaming my riding ability, when I have just been held back by a small mechanical obstacle in my own body.